Written By Amy
It’s spring break at our house, and yesterday I was able to take my son, Hunter, on a few errands with me while his sisters were busy doing other things. On my list was running him into Old Navy to pick out some summer t-shirts. Quality time shopping with my son sounded fun to me! However, as we browsed the t-shirt displays, I found myself turning into a marketing guru as I tried to convince my son of the “coolness” of each shirt I held up. Finding four he liked, we exited the store just in time for my son to breathe a sigh of relief.
Later as we left the mall, I asked Hunter which t-shirt he liked the best (mainly to create small talk, but also to gauge if I would be returning the shirts this weekend) He listed two, and then paused and said…”I can’t really remember what the other two were like.” (What?) I replied with a side-arm hug and thought to myself, “One, he definitely got the aversion to shopping gene from his Dad, and two, how could he not remember new clothes he received just ten minutes before?!”
This interaction with my son was a good reminder to me that we are different, as men and women, and as Hunter developes into a young man, I need to learn who he is apart from my perspective and understanding of the world as a woman. It also reminded me that God created us differently so that the two genders may compliment each other (for example, most men would have little or no clothes if it weren’t for the “shopping” women in their lives, and the women need the men to get them out of the store!)
We can choose to embrace the unique person God created our significant other to be. We can make the choice to view our spouse as God views them, lovingly, with the understanding that their personality parts were made to fit our personality parts perfectly like a puzzle…weak touches strong, introvert touches extrovert, passive touches aggressive, emotional touches rational, and so on. And, thank God, we are not always polar opposite…there is abundant common ground.
This verse can explain God’s intention for our differences:
So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 NIV
The man in your life with qualities you can’t imagine having yourself? Created in God’s image.
The woman in your life who seems like she is sometimes from another planet? Created in God’s image.
We are both in God’s image. God intended man and woman to not only co-exist with their differences, but to fall in love with each other, connecting perfectly together like pieces of a puzzle.
Happy differences (and happy shopping)!