Archives for April 2013

Capacity Building

The bible says that when we ask for wisdom, God will give it to us.  Well, I have been asking God for wisdom on the subject of “capacity” for many weeks now.  Just like when I was pregnant and all of a sudden I noticed all the pregnant women at the mall, I am finding bits of wisdom on the idea of capacity in unexpected places.  I love how God is faithful in helping us grow.
So, I wanted to share with you the random devotional I opened to the other day in a book a friend just sent to me.  It is called “Capacity Building” and it is full of wisdom.
“To one he gave five talents of money, to another two talents, and to  another one talent, each according to his ability” (Matthew 25:15).
Capacity is the ability Christ gives me to carry out His commands. And capacity varies from person to person. Some people can get by on five to six hours of sleep while I require seven to eight. Where I get out of balance is when I compare my capacity with someone of greater capacity. Indeed, capacity is meant to provide guardrails, not guilt.
So how can we use capacity to our advantage instead of our disadvantage? How can we understand our limitations and trust the Lord with the results? It starts by being honest about how God has made us. If we can only execute one project with excellence, then we limit ourselves to one. If we only have the time, money, and love for two children, then we accept this as the responsible decision. Honesty about capacity is freeing for parents.
But isn’t there a way to build capacity at work, at home, and in relationships? Yes, indeed! As you remain faithful with small responsibilities, the Lord and others can trust you with additional tasks.
When you manage a small amount of money on a budget, you can be trusted with more resources to steward well. When you treat one individual with a full complement of grace and truth, you build relational capacity for more quality friendships.
Furthermore, you are over capacity when cash in your bank account is overdrawn or when you have written a relational check your emotions cannot cash. Therefore, monitor your capacity in prayer before Jesus. Ask Him for courage to say no to something new so you can say yes to current obligations. As in weight lifting, you can increase your mental, emotional, financial, and relational capacity, but it takes time, focus, and discipline.
The Lord has unlimited capacity for empathy, wisdom, and character. So go to Him for your character-capacity building. Make sure your character capacity keeps up with your success, and you will be able to handle success. Does your heart have the same capacity for humility as your mind does for truth?  Build capacity around Christ’s gifts to you.
“We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. We, however, will not boast beyond proper limits, but will confine our boasting to the field God has assigned to us, a field that reaches even to you” (2 Corinthians 10:12–13).
Prayer: What capacities do I have that Christ wants to grow? To whom do I need to say no?
Related Readings: Job 15:18; Psalm 147:5; John 3:34; 1 Corinthians 10:23
© 2013 by Boyd Bailey. All rights reserved. Wisdom Hunters Resources / A registered 501 c3 ministry

A Little History…

Our family just got back from a few days in Tucson, Arizona visiting my Dad and Step-mom.  One of the days was spent on a field trip to “Old Tucson” which is a replicated “old west” town.  Walking in was like being transported back to the late 1800’s where guns were standard apparel and horses and dust as common as Hondas and pavement today .  I had been feeling a little guilty about taking our kids out of school for this mini vacation, but quickly realized the education they would receive this day was invaluable.

I wanted to share a few photos with you:


A typical look of an Old West street--notice the coffin leaning against the building on the right.

A typical look of an Old West street–notice the coffin leaning against the building on the right.

This bright red stagecoach pulled tourists through the dusty town

This bright red stagecoach pulled tourists through the dusty town


Our whole group--the Hayes five plus my Dad Larry and Step-mom Jeana

Our whole group–the Hayes five plus my Dad Larry and Step-mom Jeana


This was a re-created mercantile, take a close look at the details, including a lovely work dress hung in the back.

This was a replicated mercantile, take a close look at the details, including a lovely work dress hung in the back.


Slab bacon, yum!

Slab bacon, yum!




We waited at the train stop for the next ride.

We waited at the train stop for the next ride.




Maddie and I on the train.

Maddie and I on the train.

We saw a re-created gun fight in front of this mission--so fun!  By the way, the film Three Amigos with Steve Martin was filmed right here, among many other famous westerns filmed on this set.

We saw a “pretend” gun fight in front of this mission–so fun! By the way, the film Three Amigos with Steve Martin was filmed right here, among many other famous westerns filmed on this set.

We toured an adobe home--simple, very dusty, but sweet in a stay for a weekend sort of way :)

We toured an adobe home–simple, very dusty, but sweet in a stay for a weekend sort of way…


The "kitchen/dining" area

The “kitchen/dining” area

Try to imagine my kids walking to church in Little House on The Prairie garb.

Try to imagine my kids walking to church in Little House on The Prairie garb.

Ha Ha

Ha Ha


A schoolhouse!  So sweet.

A schoolhouse! So sweet.


The kids didn't think so...

The kids didn’t think so…





So much fun!

So much fun!


So if you’re ever in Tucson, pay “Old Tucson” a visit!  What a great day!

Do It All


Apparently I have more to say on the theme of “To Do Lists” and planning!

I don’t know if you noticed the title on the planner I posted last Monday night.

It said, “Do It All Planner”

I didn’t notice until I had posted it (I just liked the cute colors and design), but really? Do I really need my planner to daily tell me to “DO IT ALL”?

I am actually working on not doing it all, because like many of you out there, I am just tired and in need of rest.

Last Monday when I posted that pretty picture of the planner I had just finished one of my marathon days.  Up before 6 AM to make lunches and get three kids out the door.  Hurry to physical therapist at 7:30 AM (yikes!) to work on my tendonitis issue from typing (ha ha), then back home to shower and back out the door to another doctors appt (gotta love those).  On way home, make several phone calls, a run through the bank drive through, and then to a business meeting for 3 hours. Hurry home to see kids as they get home from school, and frantically bark orders to clean up the house since 12 + women were headed over in a couple of hours for bible study.  Realize I have no cream for coffee, consider going to store, decide 1% milk will work. Soccer was cancelled due to weather (phew! check one item off my list), but spent 45 minutes on hold with website builder to help me fix my website messes.  They did not get fixed. Did I mention I sent out an Evite somewhere in there?  Feed dog because child forgot. Drain sprinklers because it’s April in Colorado and we thought we were done with snow which is apparently coming tomorrow (no, not my usual job–husband out of town). Throw some chicken and salad on a plate for kids and myself for dinner, vacuum, and cheerfully greet the lovely women coming over for bible study.  Have a WONDERFUL bible study, and climb into bed when it’s over.  Did I mention my husband is out of town?  (By the way, writing out your day is somehow therapudic….you shoud try it.)

Guess what?  I was frustrated when I went to bed because I didn’t get IT ALL done!  I still had some big items on my list for that day (including running to the grocery store for milk and cereal for the next morning).  So I definitely don’t need a planner putting pressure on me to get it ALL done.

I know many of you out there are saying, “Yeah, I can beat that day.”  I know you can!

Friends, we need to slow down and build margin into our lives.  I’m not sure how yet, but I’ll let you know as I figure it out.  It probably involves (for me at least) saying “no” to more.  This is something I really struggle with.  I do know one thing, God does not want us leading frazzled, hectic days all the time. I think it’s just life that we will run into those days from time to time, but when we string them together week after week, we are left drained, empty, and nothing to give to the most important people in our lives. He does not tell us to do it all!  In fact, God built into our week a day of rest (not talking about sleep) that he knows we need.  We see the example of Jesus taking time to rest and pray and fill back up before heading back out to minister.

I’ll say it again, God does not want us to do it all.  We need to pray about what exactly God has called us to do and what is simply our own agenda.  We need to be able to separate what the world tells us to do (especially women) what we should do and what is really part of God’s plan for our lives.

Exodus 16:23   He said to them, “This is what the Lord commanded: ‘Tomorrow is to be a day of sabbath rest, a holy sabbath to the Lord. So bake what you want to bake and boil what you want to boil. Save whatever is left and keep it until morning.’”

Genesis 2:2   By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.

Let’s be imitators of God and find rest.


I would love to hear your comments and thoughts below on how you build in margin to your days, I know some of you have figured this out.

God Bless You today!  Hope you find some time to rest…me too!




Is Anyone Crying For Help?


Open your mouth and taste, open your eyes and see—how good God is.

Blessed are you who run to him.

Is anyone crying for help?  God is listening, ready to rescue you.

If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there, if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath.

Psalm 34:8, 17 (The Message)

Are You A Planner?


I thought  this was a great tag on to my “To Do List” post…

“Are you a planner? A planner likes to have life planned out.  She makes lists of what she hopes to accomplish in a day, week or month.  A planner looks ahead and knows where he expects his career to be in five years’ time.  She has expectation for her marriage and for her children.  A well-thought-out plan gives him peace.

However, life seldom follows well-laid plans.  Life takes detours that throw your plans off course.  How well do you handle these spontaneous changes? What happens to your peace-o-meter when your plans go out the window?

Change is difficult but it is possible to maintain peace in your life through the maze of life’s changes.  That peace is possible when you trust in God.  Trust in the fact that He’s in control of your life.  Trust in the fact that He wants good things for you and is guiding and directing you to serve him and others in a way that reflects His love to the world.

Look at the detours as opportunities not problems and rejoice in what they bring.”

p.83 Daily Inspirations of Peace by Carolyn Larsen

By the way, for those of us who ARE planners, here is a website with some cute ones—just be willing to ditch your plan if God has another one!



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