Do you ever feel like you keep trying new ideas that come across your path but most don’t stick? Ideas for better parenting, marriage, cooking, organizing, exercising or budgeting? I love new tips and tricks, but most of the time I just let them pass by, giving them a head nod on their way. I have become a bit skeptical, since the ideas I do try often don’t stick around very long, which feels discouraging.
For example, chores. We have done “chores” in our home in many different systems. And for the most part, they have worked for a time. But then something changes in our lives–summer vacation hits and all prior routine vanishes, or someone starts to feel self-conscious that I have all the chores listed publicly on our chalkboard with checkmarks on who has done what…so I take that down. Or, I start a new project or job and don’t have time to stay consistent. That is life. But it can still feel discouraging at times.
What about exercise? A great new app comes out (NikeTrainingClub) that I download and use for a while, but then I get bored, or it takes up too much room on my phone storage, so I delete it. Then I get an email about an new website (ToneItUp.com) that has great workouts. So I join. And jump up and down in my family room in front of my computer for a while. Until I’m bored again.
Is this a bad thing? Not always. Humans, especially in our day and age, are wired to seek out the next best thing. And with the ability to receive information so readily, we are constantly hearing about new ideas. The key is finding the one or two systems in the important areas of your life that accomplish the goal, and hanging on to those until they aren’t working for you anymore. My guess is that if the chores or the exercise programs aren’t working, it’s because your life has shifted, and it’s time give yourself permission to shift to a new idea.
Each day we sort and filter new ideas that we see on Facebook, TV, from friends, or books. How do we best select and filter all that comes our way?
1. Decide if what you are currently doing/using is working for you.
For example, if you have a system for organizing your closet that may not be perfect but is working for you, don’t feel like you need to head to The Container Store to acquire the best new system you just saw on a Today Show segment. However, if your closet has been a source of frustration, and watching the segment makes you realize that, use the inspiration to get you off your duff and do something about it.
2. If an idea sounds good, don’t shrug it off because the last three things you have tried haven’t stuck around long term.
In my next post I will share a great new kid-chore tracker that a friend shared with me. My first instinct was to say, “That’s nice,” and change the subject, knowing it is one more system that may not work long term. However, I asked a few more questions, and decided to give it a try, even though I just knew one of my children would balk at it because it would feel “kiddish” to her. Guess what? It is working amazingly well…for all kids.
3. When you try something new, give it time.
Often, we start something, just to end it a week later. We make a lot of excuses, “It is not working as fast as I thought it would, I didn’t have the time to learn how to do it well, I have already figured out three reasons why I can’t sustain this…”
Well, all of those things may be true, but if you don’t give things at least THREE WEEKS (21 days to form a habit!) of consistent effort, you will never know the true outcome.
This seems very true with any new organizing system, an effort to speak differently to your spouse, exercise programs, or a new eating routine, etc.!
4. When you do stumble upon something great, share it!
I have learned some great new tips and tricks for my life that have stuck around because friends have shared what is working for them. Don’t be shy about letting people know something that has been successful for you.
In my next post, I will share 4 ideas that have simplified my life–and that seem to be sticking!
So, in the spirit of sharing, please like and share this post on FB if you thought it was helpful. Thank you!
Have a great day!