Excuses

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Hello! How is your new year going so far?  How are those resolutions progressing?  I had made a few–one of them being to make more creative and different meals.  I signed up for something called E-MEALS.  There was a Groupon offered and I thought it would be a good way for me grab some fresh new recipes to help with my resolution.  So far I have made one meal off the new list, but hey, it’s a start!

Here are my excuses–we went on vacation for about a week-no cooking there.  My husband has been traveling before and after our vacation and I don’t cook new or elaborate meals for the kids and myself (if it bombs, at least Jonathan will eat it so don’t want to take the risk when he is not present at the table).  And finally, I am trying to use all the food we already have in the freezer before I start stuffing it with new bags of chicken breasts and frozen waffles.   But, I am excited for the recipe list to pop in to my email this week to press onward!

Excuses aren’t really a bad thing.  They are just reality sometimes.  However, when the excuses continue to push back the goals you have set for yourself, it’s time to evaluate two things.

ONE, are you avoiding accomplishing something hard but rewarding by continuing the same behaviors over and over?  In other words, if you don’t act differently in some way, you will never move toward your new goal.  I started a new financial program this year which I will share in another post soon, but it required me to change my patterns and thinking in 2014.  I am now doing some things differently than I was before.  But, when the change is challenging, we often push our timeline of success just far enough in front of us to sabotage our efforts. Our thinking looks like this: “I’ll get to it next week when I have more time, money, energy, etc. ”

TRUTH: To reach your goals you must do things differently, today, even if they are uncomfortable.

TWO, are your goals not completely lined up with your heart?  For example, if I really didn’t want to change how I cooked for my family but just plowed forward with forcing myself to be different, I probably would never be successful.  The excuses would continue week after week.  For me, I really do want to continue to expand my ability to cook and have my family try new things, so my goals are lined up with my heart, and hopefully I will be successful!

I just had a talk with my oldest daughter today about her goals for playing golf this season with her high school team.  She is not sure she wants to continue with this sport, and has some other great opportunities knocking at her door.  I encouraged her to pray about it, but not to continue with golf just to please us or because she feels guilty about quitting–she will only be pursuing the goal for the wrong reasons, and will most likely not successful in the end.

TRUTH: When you set unrealistic goals, or ones that don’t line up with your true heart, you will either not be successful, or be unhappy in the process.  Change toward a goal should feel rewarding, even if it is difficult.

As you re-evaluate some of the goals you maybe set for yourself this year, give yourself grace, but walk in the truth that God can give you the strength to grow and change if you want it.

Blessings!

Amy

Next Post: Spiritual Resolutions for the New Year.

 

 

When I Say That I’m A Christian…

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Words so true!  Worth printing and taping to my bathroom mirror:

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When I say, “I am a Christian” I’m not shouting, “I’ve been saved!”

I’m whispering, “I get lost sometimes That’s why I chose this way.”

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I don’t speak with human pride,

I’m confessing that I stumble – needing God to be my guide.

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I’m not trying to be strong,

I’m professing that I’m weak and pray for strength to carry on.

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I’m not bragging of success,

I’m admitting that I’ve failed and cannot ever pay the debt.

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I don’t think I know it all,

I submit to my confusion asking humbly to be taught.

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I’m not claiming to be perfect.

My flaws are far too visible but God believes I’m worth it.

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I still feel the sting of pain,

I have my share of heartache which is why I seek God’s name.

 

When I say, “I am a Christian” I do not wish to judge,

I have no authority, I only know I’m loved.

Copyright 1988 Carol Wimmer

The Nerve Was Cut

In the book we’re reading for our bible study, 30 Days to Understanding Your Bible (we’re reading Chapters 20-23 this week for those of you following along) the author shares a story written by a brilliant surgeon in his book Mortal Lessons: Notes on The Art of Surgery.  It is a powerful story, and relates so beautifully with our journey with God.  I wanted to share:

     I stand by the bed where a young woman lies, her face postoperative, her mouth twisted in a palsy, clownish.  A tiny twig of a facial nerve, the one to the muscles in her mouth, has been severed.  She will be thus from now on.  The surgeon had followed with religious fervor the curve of her flesh; I promise you that.  Nevertheless to remove the tumor in her cheek, I had to cut the little nerve.
     Her husband is in the room.  He stands on the opposite side of the bed, and together, they seem to dwell in the evening lamplight.  Isolated from me, private.  Who are they, I ask myself, he and the wry mouth I have made, who gaze at each other, and touch each other generously, greedily?
     The young woman speaks. “Will I always be like this?” she asks.  “Yes,” I say.  “It is because the nerve was cut.”  She nods and is silent.  But the young man smiles. “I like it,” he says.  “It’s kind of cute.”
     All at once I know who he is.  I understand, and I lower my gaze.  One is not bold in an encounter with a god.  Unmindful, he bends to kiss her crooked mouth, and I am so close I can see how he twists his own lips to accommodate hers, to show that the kiss still works.  I remember that the gods appeared in ancient Greece as mortals, and I hold my breath and  let the wonder in.
 

That is the spirit of Jesus.  Man’s link with God had been severed through sin.  And He twisted Himself to accommodate us, and gave us the kiss of eternal life.  But to do so He gave His own life on our behalf.  Jesus.  At the same time, so tender and powerful.  (30 Days to Understanding Your Bible, p. 127, 128)

How Are You Doing With The Golden Rule?

My daughter Maddie and I have started another blog.  It’s called

MaddieMo and Mom.  Maddie is eleven, and has some thoughts of her own to share.  I weigh in at the end. I wanted to share a post from that blog on GraceFullhome:

The Golden Rule

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“Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

The golden rule means a lot to me.  Mostly because Jesus followed the Golden Rule every day. For example Jesus gave love and grace and forgiveness to everyone he met. I am a Godly girl, and that means that I try to follow Jesus’s ways just as much as he  did.  That also means that I follow the Golden Rule with my friends my family and anybody else.  The way I follow the Golden Rule with my family is whenever I say something rude I say I’m sorry and I won’t do it again and hopefully they know I would them to say sorry to me sometimes.

 

Mom

This rule is so great, but not that easy to carry out.  Try this, put someone in your life in the “other’s” blank:

Treat _______________ the way I want to be treated

Treat my husband the way I want to be treated.

Treat my children the way I want to be treated.

Treat my neighbor the way I want to be treated.

 

Do I want to be treated with kindness and respect?  Do I want to be treated with forgivness and grace?  How about patience, and be given the benefit of the doubt? Yes.  Well then, I better hand those out like a clown hands out balloon animals to a crowd of children–freely and with a smile.

 

Blessings,
Amy

The Universe Is Running Properly

Short and sweet today, but truth for our souls:

“Since  we know that God is keeping the universe running properly every second of every  day, why would we doubt that He can take care of us? He has all power, all  authority, all wisdom, and He loves us with a perfect love that is promised to  us unconditionally and forever. Are you leaning on Him in every situation? Do  you believe God is good, and that He wants to be good to you? Put your faith in  Him and enter His rest.”

From the book Trusting God Day by Day by Joyce Meyer.

 

Blessings,

Amy

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