Hello! How is your new year going so far? How are those resolutions progressing? I had made a few–one of them being to make more creative and different meals. I signed up for something called E-MEALS. There was a Groupon offered and I thought it would be a good way for me grab some fresh new recipes to help with my resolution. So far I have made one meal off the new list, but hey, it’s a start!
Here are my excuses–we went on vacation for about a week-no cooking there. My husband has been traveling before and after our vacation and I don’t cook new or elaborate meals for the kids and myself (if it bombs, at least Jonathan will eat it so don’t want to take the risk when he is not present at the table). And finally, I am trying to use all the food we already have in the freezer before I start stuffing it with new bags of chicken breasts and frozen waffles. But, I am excited for the recipe list to pop in to my email this week to press onward!
Excuses aren’t really a bad thing. They are just reality sometimes. However, when the excuses continue to push back the goals you have set for yourself, it’s time to evaluate two things.
ONE, are you avoiding accomplishing something hard but rewarding by continuing the same behaviors over and over? In other words, if you don’t act differently in some way, you will never move toward your new goal. I started a new financial program this year which I will share in another post soon, but it required me to change my patterns and thinking in 2014. I am now doing some things differently than I was before. But, when the change is challenging, we often push our timeline of success just far enough in front of us to sabotage our efforts. Our thinking looks like this: “I’ll get to it next week when I have more time, money, energy, etc. ”
TRUTH: To reach your goals you must do things differently, today, even if they are uncomfortable.
TWO, are your goals not completely lined up with your heart? For example, if I really didn’t want to change how I cooked for my family but just plowed forward with forcing myself to be different, I probably would never be successful. The excuses would continue week after week. For me, I really do want to continue to expand my ability to cook and have my family try new things, so my goals are lined up with my heart, and hopefully I will be successful!
I just had a talk with my oldest daughter today about her goals for playing golf this season with her high school team. She is not sure she wants to continue with this sport, and has some other great opportunities knocking at her door. I encouraged her to pray about it, but not to continue with golf just to please us or because she feels guilty about quitting–she will only be pursuing the goal for the wrong reasons, and will most likely not successful in the end.
TRUTH: When you set unrealistic goals, or ones that don’t line up with your true heart, you will either not be successful, or be unhappy in the process. Change toward a goal should feel rewarding, even if it is difficult.
As you re-evaluate some of the goals you maybe set for yourself this year, give yourself grace, but walk in the truth that God can give you the strength to grow and change if you want it.
Next Post: Spiritual Resolutions for the New Year.