Excuses

images

Hello! How is your new year going so far?  How are those resolutions progressing?  I had made a few–one of them being to make more creative and different meals.  I signed up for something called E-MEALS.  There was a Groupon offered and I thought it would be a good way for me grab some fresh new recipes to help with my resolution.  So far I have made one meal off the new list, but hey, it’s a start!

Here are my excuses–we went on vacation for about a week-no cooking there.  My husband has been traveling before and after our vacation and I don’t cook new or elaborate meals for the kids and myself (if it bombs, at least Jonathan will eat it so don’t want to take the risk when he is not present at the table).  And finally, I am trying to use all the food we already have in the freezer before I start stuffing it with new bags of chicken breasts and frozen waffles.   But, I am excited for the recipe list to pop in to my email this week to press onward!

Excuses aren’t really a bad thing.  They are just reality sometimes.  However, when the excuses continue to push back the goals you have set for yourself, it’s time to evaluate two things.

ONE, are you avoiding accomplishing something hard but rewarding by continuing the same behaviors over and over?  In other words, if you don’t act differently in some way, you will never move toward your new goal.  I started a new financial program this year which I will share in another post soon, but it required me to change my patterns and thinking in 2014.  I am now doing some things differently than I was before.  But, when the change is challenging, we often push our timeline of success just far enough in front of us to sabotage our efforts. Our thinking looks like this: “I’ll get to it next week when I have more time, money, energy, etc. ”

TRUTH: To reach your goals you must do things differently, today, even if they are uncomfortable.

TWO, are your goals not completely lined up with your heart?  For example, if I really didn’t want to change how I cooked for my family but just plowed forward with forcing myself to be different, I probably would never be successful.  The excuses would continue week after week.  For me, I really do want to continue to expand my ability to cook and have my family try new things, so my goals are lined up with my heart, and hopefully I will be successful!

I just had a talk with my oldest daughter today about her goals for playing golf this season with her high school team.  She is not sure she wants to continue with this sport, and has some other great opportunities knocking at her door.  I encouraged her to pray about it, but not to continue with golf just to please us or because she feels guilty about quitting–she will only be pursuing the goal for the wrong reasons, and will most likely not successful in the end.

TRUTH: When you set unrealistic goals, or ones that don’t line up with your true heart, you will either not be successful, or be unhappy in the process.  Change toward a goal should feel rewarding, even if it is difficult.

As you re-evaluate some of the goals you maybe set for yourself this year, give yourself grace, but walk in the truth that God can give you the strength to grow and change if you want it.

Blessings!

Amy

Next Post: Spiritual Resolutions for the New Year.

 

 

Just Like God…

Written By Amy

 

I started in a new business this past spring.  It is something, I believe, that will help ease the financial stress that has been a weight on our family for the last few years since my husband’s company entered bankruptcy.  Jon continues to work tirelessly to provide for our family, starting a second business on the side.  I  also started working a part-time job two years ago, which I love and am SO thankful for, to help partially cover the lost pay.  My husband’s company is out of the woods for now, but his pay is not yet restored to what it was.   So when this new business venture was presented to me, I was filled with hope–it was manageable time wise,  had a product that I have come to love, and laid out a financial plan that seemed realistic.

The journey in this company is a long one, because I will not see any significant pay from it for a year to 18 months.  It is a process of growing my business, and it is slow.  But I continue each day to visit the goal, and feel continually excited about what the future holds, even though I see no tangible outcome at the moment.  My friend, who is also a part of this company, asked me yesterday, “Why is it that we are so excited about this, when it requires great patience, perseverance and belief in the goal?”  I said, “Hope.”

Over the last few months I have often equated this journey of mine with my spiritual walk.  It feels so much the same.   With both, I press on daily, with both, I have successes and stumbles, with both, I have great hope.

In my new business, I try to spend a little time each day investing some energy into my goal.  It usually is a few minutes each day, some days an hour or more, but each day I do something.  If I go a week or two and don’t think about it at all, I feel detached and find it harder to catch back up to where I was. I find that every time I talk to a friend who is also in this business, I leave feeling so encouraged!  They are experiencing the same pitfalls, and their successes motivate me to press on! This is exactly how I feel about my effort as a Christian.  I need to have God DAILY in my life, so that our relationship remains strong and alive.  I need to spend a little time (or a lot some days) reading the bible, in a study about Him, or in prayer.  I must have fellowship with others who are in pursuit of the same goal, and time with friends who share my faith is always so motivating, so uplifting.  We all hope for the same.

So, I daily take up my cross and pursue God in my relationships, my work, my heart.  I often wish I was further along, as I do in my business.  Yet, I know I must continue to pour effort into my relationship with Him to continue to move forward, knowing that my investment will produce great returns.  I do not currently see the financial returns of this work in my life,  and likewise my walk toward the gates of heaven is often intangible, with my hope placed in a God that I cannot physically touch today.  But I am confident that someday I will walk with Him and be in His presence.  This is what I hope for.

Wouldn’t it be just like God to bring something into my life to help me clearly see what he wants my relationship with Him to look like?

“I pray that the God who gives hope will fill you with much joy and peace while you trust in him. Then your hope will overflow by the power of the Holy Spirit.”  Romans 15:13

 

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...